I’m Not the Same Chick I Was at 25—And Thank God for That

Let’s talk about 25-year-old Juli.

She was a single mom to an infant, fresh off of dreaming big and ready to launch something she believed in—iCandi Productions. The vision was bold: document the journey of building a production company from scratch through spoofs, skits, behind-the-scenes footage, and eventually short films and full features. That girl had energy, ambition, and zero blueprint—but she went for it.

A lot has happened in 15 years. Some things went according to plan, others didn’t. But one thing that absolutely did happen? Juli became a full-grown woman.

The Journey:

From 25 to 40, life didn’t just pass—I lived it.

• I got married.

• I had another child.

• I got divorced.

• I found out my youngest son is autistic and had to learn how to co-parent respectfully while navigating a brand-new autism diagnosis.

• My mother’s health declined, and I became her full-time caregiver. I’ve watched her fight for her life on a ventilator and come back from it.

• I’ve experienced death. I’ve mourned close friends and family who’ve transitioned.

• I’ve lost long-term friendships I thought would last forever… and gained new sister circles that have fed my soul.

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All the while, I never stopped building.

I stayed consistent with raising my children. I kept showing up for my dreams, even when I was grieving, even when I was tired, even when I had every reason to quit.

From Dimming My Light to Owning My Glow:

25-year-old Juli was full of life, always the center of attention, and genuinely loved by people. She was bubbly, bold, and unforgettable—but also unsure. She carried guilt for simply being loved, supported, or visible.

I used to feel bad for being too much—too seen, too supported, too joyful. Like my light dimmed others by default. I bent over backward to make others feel comfortable, even when it meant shrinking myself.

Not anymore.

At 40, I’m not apologizing for the love I receive, the energy I bring, or the joy I’ve earned. If you can’t handle my light, move out of my sun. I’m no longer pushing myself to the back so someone else can shine. I shine on purpose.

Boundaries, Wisdom & Intuition:

I used to be a people-pleaser, constantly trying to make everyone around me feel good—even if it left me empty.

Now? I’ve learned what boundaries are. I honor them. I trust my gut. I protect my peace. I no longer question myself when something doesn’t feel right. I no longer second-guess my spirit’s warning. I don’t owe everyone access, and I don’t feel guilty for choosing peace over performance.

Legacy & Focus:

At 25, I was just beginning to dream. At 40, I’m building a legacy.

I know my purpose. I know what I want for my children, for my family, for myself. I’m intentional about the energy I entertain, the projects I say yes to, and the kind of life I’m creating.

I don’t move with ego. I move with integrity. I don’t need permission. I walk in purpose. And I don’t waste time. I’m moving with focus.

So no—I’m not the same chick I was at 25.And honestly? Thank God for that.

Because the woman I am now? She’s healed. She’s whole. And she’s just getting started.